Last year I was very unwell. Now that I am well and fully recovered I think I view life in a different way.
I have also started a new career and much of that career is spent supporting women. I think that has also made its impact.
In all honesty I think living without Dd has made us happier.
Dd had it's place and there were times when I would have said that living that way made us much happier but I am not so sure now.
I think it created drama, put him under great pressure and encouraged me to judge everything that we did.
Ironically at the same time as us, another couple that we know have also stopped but in that relationship it was the man who initiated the change.
With me and my beloved there wasn't a time where we sat down and said that it wasn't going to happen anymore, I just slowly began to step away from it.
I asked him the other day if he missed it. He said, 'yes and no'. 'I miss how feminin it made you and how attentive you became but I don't miss having to control everything in our family'.
I feel comfortable in this new dynamic.
We had been having a few problems and that now seems to have disappeared. I still feel adored and he is so attentive and loving and tries so hard to make me happy. I love him very much and am so lucky to have found him.
Good luck to you all. I doubt that I will write on here again, but you never know!